“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself. ” – Rumi
Close your eyes and imagine standing in the ocean just up to your ankles as the waves move on to the shore. You will be moved. No matter how hard you try to hold your ground, the sand will move beneath you and you will be moved. If the waves are gentle, the movement will also be gentle. If the sea is rough, you may be knocked over. This is how change can feel.
As we begin to understand and accept the inevitability of change we can embrace it as a powerful tool for ourselves.
Fighting waves will soon exhaust the swimmer. Learning to “Go with the Flow“ is a more productive choice. When we accept change as the nature of our existence we stop being angry, asking “Why me?“, judging, blaming, hiding, fearing, despairing.
“Grief does not change you, Hazel. It reveals you.” – John Green, The Fault In Our Stars
Experiencing change and especially the grief associated with it teaches us. As we experience the darkness of our fear we learn to tap into our resilience, courage, compassion and love. These are all powerful tools to guide us through life.
So, get comfortable standing in the ocean. Exhale your worry and fear. Learn to move with the waves. Stay centered in your heart. Be the observer of the change around you. Also, keep company with people who will help to hold you up when the waves get high. And do the same for them.
Did I mention that I have a milkman? He delivers, milk, eggs, butter…..to my door!